[en] It does appear that it is much difficult to acquaint people in a lecture environment as people are preoccupied with the class... So maybe clubs and social-like events are indeed necessary (or luck - got 2 friends when waiting in a line lol).
@a maybe if you have anything in mind you can do together with the person you want to talk with (study group, grab coffee, etc etc) just invite them... doesn't hurt. Unfortunately unless it's in a club scenario it's kind of hard to meet a whole group of people at the same time (ofc, club could also be an option)
@a @woka Good luck... I mean it depends. I personally won't sit in different spots all the time, and I would try to befriend people near me if I want to, and sometimes it works (granted, I do have social issues... so take it with a pinch of salt...) Do whatever works best for you I guess--it's important that you feel comfortable in the process. For meaningful conversations, I think it takes time to get there. Greetings are the first step I think x)
@a @evelyn @yx_ All my life I've been like that, now I'm around 40 I basically decided to give zero fucks. I am more chill, ignore my anxiety (hard to actually do) and just talk to people. I have become more curious about other people maybe, and am genuinely curious about others interests etc. But, realizing you won't gel with everyone and leaving the convo before it gets weird and forced is a skill in itself.
I know a LOT of people, but have basically zero close friends. But I don't mind that.
@swansinflight Well, weak ties do seem to matter for getting employments or favours, and that certainly matters more for a university student than for an established 40-y/o (sorry if offensive)... Obviously I don't expect an infinite supply of close friends (those are rare for everyone)...
@a not offensive at all 😁
Every job except my first out of school has been through someone I know. Mostly I know a lot of people from doing a lot of different things, through different clubs and interests. I guess I don't really even want close friends, I like the ability to disappear and spend time alone; my inner introvert coming out I suppose. Though you wouldn't know from meeting me necessarily.
@a I guess my point is, I know a lot of peeps through extra curricular activities.
I don't socialise for the sake of socialising; it's a side effect of doing stuff with other people.
Me too. Those I used to refer to as friends, I realized, this isn't true friendship. They're just acquaintances I got to spend a lot of time with.
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